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If you haven’t noticed, the divine feminine has been rising and influencing us for awhile now. As abusive cultural shadows continue to be exposed, women need extra levels of support and love as they navigate healing the generations of patriarchal wounding that lives within their body’s and souls. They need specific assistance and understanding on the healing table and beyond as they learn, step by step, the roadmap of a new and empowered life in today’s world.
Whether you know it or not, codependency is at the heart of many problems in life.
The dictionary describes it as: excessive emotional or psychological reliance on a partner, typically a partner who requires support due to an illness or addiction.
I would extend this definition to overlooking your own personal needs to be there for someone or something else, and then blame that someone/something else as the thing that is holding you back, rather than taking responsibility for your own fulfillment and goals in life.
It shows up as:
It may seem like it’s all their fault, but the common denominator in all these situations my friends…. is you.
You may have been on the journey of your personal work for a long time, but there are still these sticking points of empowerment that you are ready to dive into.
Healing codependency can be difficult, but it also can be fun!
Here’s what can happen:
I love to help people heal codependency through their divine connection and creativity. Because once their sacred art is expressed, the self that has been dying for attention starts to speak loudly! She roars! Say YES to freedom, it is within you.
New course to heal codependency and be creatively free, starts Monday, April 9th. Email me to learn more.
When loss hits you, in the form of a breakup, betrayal, or death, it usually is blindsiding. You didn't see it coming, and even if you did, you still didn't really see it.
This unexpected loss shakes up your whole world. It changes your future forever. And it’s not a welcome change.
Initially of course the shock cannot be digested. The brain simply cannot comprehend the sudden change and integrate it into reality. But over time, as each day goes by and the loss is still present, the painful reality starts to sink in, the dread is overwhelming. They say the next step is denial and bargaining. All of this is there to protect you from the painful feelings. It’s natural.
But when those initial stages are passed through, a doorway opens into the transformational process, because this is when the emotions start to flow. These emotions are not pleasant, pain and anger expressed can offer temporary relief, but they also tear through your illusions and sense of control.
When you first start to feel the pain, it seems so much bigger than you can handle. And truly, it might be. Your whole world is changing. This is why you need community to grieve with you. Grief is a force of nature, an alchemical fire that will rebirth you if you let it. In many earth honoring cultures, and probably the culture that is back there in your DNA somewhere, grieving and wailing was a community event that called upon the natural forces to take the burden and transmute for rebirth. The song of your soul wants to wail, and wants to be heard, validated, recognized and met.
Even if you have not experienced a recent loss, if you have had a lifetime of feeling neglected, holding back the your emotions, your needs, and your wildness, deep down you will need and want this recognition. It’s normal, and it’s natural.
So how does this relate to creativity?
1. When you empty yourself in this way, you become the void. In this dark, vast space, Source has no choice but to refill your being with new life. The loss, the death, in its transmutation, will rebirth itself inside you as NEW, CREATIVE energy.
2. This requires the ultimate surrender, because you will not be in control at this point. You are in the veil between worlds and when you surrender like this, when you have given up Grace can unfold on your behalf. Your mind cannot make sense of this loss, and this is where Spirit wants to LOVE you. God, Source, the Goddess, Creator, The FORCE hears your call, feels your heart and your precious NEED and comes rushing towards you to love you, to hold you, and to lead the way.
3. During major life transitions, it is Spirit that wants to steer the boat for you for awhile, because you cant see where you’re going, you cant see anything but your pain and confusion. Only the purity of your heart and soul can cut though this as you surrender.
4. Your Creative Spirit is rebirthing, and it needs outlets. In this passageway, you may have more energy available to you than you’ve ever had. It wants to be used, it wants to CREATE. If you stifle it, you will prolong the pain, you will create dis-ease in the body, and sickness of the soul. Receive what it wants to teach you, let it show you who you are becoming.
5. Through your art, your song, your writing, your dance, your creations…you arrive in
the safe harbor of Spirit. The ground has turned from water to earth, and you learn how to walk again. You have taken with you the essentials, and all else has been left behind. That which you have grieved, and may continue to grieve, has transformed into new life, has transformed into new ground, has allowed you to move forward, to be more than you were before, to contribute to the world and to make sense of the unexplainable.
This is the passage of Turn Your Broken Heart Into Art. However you are stifling your spirit, this work will allow it to unlock, to release, to grieve, to feel and to take form as life births itself anew inside you.
After my first heartbreak when I was 21, I didn’t recover for almost 8 years. I knew something was up but I had no idea how to change things. I was frozen inside and I kept myself safe in a dating pattern where I knew I wouldn’t get too hurt, except that I chose people who would inevitably leave, or that I would inevitably leave. Each time, re-wounding myself. Does this sound familiar?
After we get hurt, whether from a breakup, or any shock/loss of some kind, we often will shut parts of ourselves down. We can shut down the vulnerable part, the strong parts, the sexual parts, the loving parts, the creative parts, etc. You get the idea.
It is here where we stay frozen, unable to accept what happened, then attracting the same pattern over and over again, trying to resolve it, trying to find and love our lost parts of ourselves. Again, this can happen after any kind of major shock/loss/betrayal.
This could manifest as:
I shut down my powerful spiritual side in relationship. Because I blamed these parts of myself for past hurts. Now, can you imagine someone as uber spiritual as me trying to minimize that part of me in relationship? That’s a kamikaze mission. A spirit this strong will rebel. And it is SHE who does every time I set that pattern up for myself, in hopes that maybe this time, I’ll stay for good.
Well, this last time, I decided to stay for good. When my ex told me, after a year, that he wasn’t so sure about this healing thing I was doing…..I had a wake up call. I was devastated at the realization that my full self could not be present in it, but I knew it was because I had been minimizing its importance, again.
The pain overwhelmed me. But I took that pain and I channeled it into my deepest, long held spiritual and creative dreams. I took all that intolerable but potent energy, cried all the way to New York and got a cabin in the woods in the creative, spiritual mecca of Woodstock, NY, where I had wanted to live for 20 years. Then I got to the business of fully incarnating into my badass multi-dimensional self. I finally let my Higher Selfie land inside my body for good. No apologies. No hiding. No holding back. No more compromising this essential part of me for love. I’ve been creating, painting, writing, wailing, singing, owning myself and putting myself out there like never before. Higher Selfie is home for good, she is clear on just about everything, and she is just getting started.
This is your most important point of transformation. When you are willing and able to feel those emotions fully in a healing container, they are the cry to all the lost parts of yourself! YOU come fully back in and with all that energy you have no choice but channel them into something creative, you are participating in the most powerful alchemical process that available. You are saying to the All That Is that you are READY. Ready to face life and all that it comes with, because your full self is brave and willing to be put to use, willing to accept the energy that spirit wants to give you. You are saying YES to your dreams you are saying YES to your mission, you are saying YES to your whole self.
The grieving process does not happen overnight of course. There are many check points where the pain feels so overwhelming that you just want to stop it all. And that is why it is EXTREMELY important that you get the love and support that you need, so that these sacred parts of yourself don't go into hiding and repeat the patterns, hardening your precious heart. You will be very, very tempted to do that, and being held in support will catch you and hold you in those moments.
This work is all the more crucial if your heart has hardened up and the patterns have set in. NOW is still the time to unwind them. It’s never too late.
I hope you will join us in this wild, wonderful, passionate, loving and restorative journey to Turn Your Broken Heart into Art. It’s my life’s work. It’s my most vulnerable, humble and hard earned creation that Higher Selfie, my spirit team and I want to share with you. If this course is over after you've clicked, shoot me an email to learn how to work with me privately.